My Unfinished BDSM Session with a Swiss Sub In Shanghai

 In 2019, a German-speaking Swiss man reached out to arrange a pegging session. Our communication was brief but telling. Even through text, without seeing his face or hearing his voice, I sensed his punctuality, kindness, and quiet thoughtfulness—a soft-spoken integrity woven into his words. His calm, confident tone sparked an unexpected curiosity in me, hinting at something deeper.

We agreed to meet in Shanghai's Xintiandi, where historic shikumen houses blend seamlessly with modern elegance. I arrived early, scanning the crowd. When he approached, our eyes locked, and the air shifted. His soft-spoken smile radiated warmth, charm, and an effortless magnetism that caught me entirely off guard. Later, as he gently ushered me to his room, I caught a glimpse of his shadow moving beside mine—so sweet, so boyish in its rhythm. And when he walked ahead of me in his perfectly tailored suit, shoulders straight like a runway model, I found myself instinctively reaching out… not to touch his hand, but to hold the shadow of it. It was delicate, surreal—like chasing something tender you know you'll remember forever.

That day marked the only time I didn't follow through with a BDSM session.

It wasn't discomfort or doubt that stopped me—it was the sudden realization that I was drawn to him. The physical pull was undeniable, but beneath it lay something more: a connection that had quietly grown through our exchanges. When I leaned in to kiss him, it felt not just inevitable but right.

To my quiet relief, he felt it too. The spark, the unspoken potential, the chemistry that hummed between us. What was meant to be a controlled, professional encounter dissolved into something unguarded and real. That day wasn't about dominance or submission—it was about vulnerability, connection, and surrendering to a moment neither of us could have predicted.

Breaking my own rules wasn't a choice I made lightly. But I carry no regrets. That soft-spoken moment, sealed with a kiss, reminded me that in a world of carefully scripted control, true connection remains beautifully unpredictable.

BDSM Event: Documentary Inspired Pet Play With American Expat Submissive In Shanghai

Recently, an American expat contacted me for a pet play session in Shanghai. For this particular encounter, I drew inspiration from the documentary The Girl Who Talked to Dolphins, which explores the unique bond between a researcher and a dolphin. Inspired by this, I decided to craft an experience where my submissive would take on the role of a dolphin — an obedient, playful creature under my command. I named him Peter for the session, channeling the spirit of the dolphin in the documentary.

I discovered that he had a private swimming pool at his home, the perfect setting for him to fully immerse himself in his new role and bring it to life with authenticity. As soon as he entered the water, I gave him his first command: “Swim for me, Peter.” His body moved with hesitant grace, trying to mimic the fluid, almost instinctive motions of a dolphin. I could see him focus, his eyes locked on mine as I guided him through the space. I could feel the shift in his demeanor as he fell into character, becoming more fluid, more responsive with each movement.

I instructed him to swim in tight circles, his body arching in the water like a dolphin's dorsal fin slicing through the surface. I guided him with my voice, commanding him to dive under the water and resurface, just as a dolphin would do when it feels its owner's presence. I rewarded him with gentle pats and praises when he obeyed, calling him a “good dolphin” and encouraging his submission with each motion. I let the water serve as both a playground and a test of his obedience. The pool became a world where he was stripped of human ego, forced to respond only to my voice and commands.

At times, I coaxed him closer with treats, urging him to leap and “catch” the reward from my hands, like a playful dolphin jumping for fish. I made sure to remind him that his actions were not just for my amusement, but to reaffirm the bond between us. There were moments when I used a whistle to call him, just as a trainer might do to signal a dolphin's performance. He obeyed with precision, his body almost instinctively responding to the sound, as though he truly believed he was under my control, submerged in a world where he was the animal, and I was the dominant force that commanded his every action.

BDSM Training | A Dubai Businessman's Extraordinary Journey to Enforced Chastity In Shanghai

 A businessman from Dubai ordered a chastity game session with me.

On the day of our meeting, I stepped into his hotel room in Shanghai. I had a plan that transcended the ordinary. Once I had secured him within the chastity device, I grinned mischievously as I retrieved a large glass container from a hidden drawer. “Now for the second part of our session,” I teased, explaining my intention to freeze the key in a great block of my pee — an element of control that would amplify our game.

As I pee into the container, his eyes widened. The piss shimmered as it splashed against the glass, a surreal moment that fused both humiliation and exhilaration. When the container was filled, I precisely placed it in a freezer, locking it away as if sealing his fate.

Understanding your limits is vital,” I said, almost philosophically as I watched him squirm with anticipation — excited yet apprehensive about what lay ahead.

Minutes passed like hours until I finally returned, triumph apparent in my demeanor. I revealed the massive block of pee ice — inside it lay the key to his freedom. “Now, my pet,” I commanded playfully, “we must find a way to retrieve the key.

With precise movements and strategic positioning, I came up a breathtaking plan. A thick ball gag was placed over his mouth to elevate our chastity game further — a physical manifestation of his surrender to my control. With a little twist here and a clink there, I carefully positioned the icy mass above him, allowing it to drip slowly but consistently.

Each drop was a cold, humiliating reminder of his complete submission to my will. Yet, with each passing second, I could see the unexpected thrill building inside him. The humiliation stoked his arousal, merging into a complex mix of helplessness and euphoria. The slow, intimate dance of ice melting and power shifting wrapped us both in the primal intimacy of the moment.

I watched with satisfaction as he endured each drop, knowing that every passing second drew him deeper into my control — a perfect surrender to the game we’d both come to play.

BDSM Pegging: My Strap-On Experience with Over 300 Western Submissives in China

In the vibrant landscape of BDSM across China, one experience stands out for its depth of exploration and emotional resonance: pegging. As a dominatrix who has had the privilege of strapping on and pegging over 300 western men throughout major cities like Shanghai, Hangzhou, Nanjing, Suzhou, Wuxi, and Beijing, I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of this intimate act.

What Draws Men to Pegging?

The appeal of pegging for men is multifaceted, touching on aspects of vulnerability, trust, and sexual liberation. For many, it represents a chance to explore parts of their sexuality that may have been previously stifled by societal expectations or personal inhibitions.

Vulnerability and Surrender: Pegging allows men to experience vulnerability in a way that feels safe and consensual. The act of being penetrated can be disarming, breaking down barriers and fostering a deep connection between partners. This experience often leads to emotional catharsis, allowing men to confront and embrace their own desires.

Exploration of Gender Roles: In a world where traditional masculinity is often rigid and limiting, pegging offers an avenue for men to step outside those confines. Engaging in pegging allows them to challenge conventional notions of masculinity, exploring their sexuality without fear of judgment. This playful subversion can be incredibly liberating.

Physical Sensation: The physical sensations involved in pegging are unique and can be intensely pleasurable. Many men report discovering new erogenous zones and experiencing orgasms that feel different from traditional sexual encounters. The prostate, often dubbed the “male G-spot,” can be a source of intense pleasure, leading to mind-blowing orgasms that redefine their understanding of pleasure.

Trust and Intimacy: The act of pegging requires a high level of trust between partners. It fosters an environment where communication and consent are paramount. This trust can enhance intimacy, allowing couples to connect on deeper emotional levels. Many men find that the experience strengthens their relationships, creating a bond that transcends physicality.

Breaking Taboos: Engaging in pegging can feel like a rebellious act against societal norms. For many men, the thrill of stepping into uncharted territory, defying expectations, and embracing their fantasies can be exhilarating. This element of taboo can heighten arousal and add an exciting layer to their sexual experiences.

My Experiences Across China

Traveling across China for pegging sessions has given me a unique perspective on how cultural attitudes towards sex and BDSM vary from city to city. In bustling metropolises like Shanghai and Beijing, the underground BDSM scene is thriving, with a diverse community of participants eager to explore. Meanwhile, in smaller cities like Wuxi and Suzhou, the experience can be more subdued, with individuals often approaching pegging with a sense of curiosity and nervous excitement.

Regardless of the location, the common thread remains: men are seeking deeper connections with their desires. Each session has its unique rhythm, shaped by the individual’s fantasies and boundaries, and my role as a dominatrix is to facilitate that exploration in a safe, consensual manner.

Pegging is more than just a sexual act; it’s an opportunity for self-discovery and empowerment. As I continue my journey through the BDSM landscape in China, I remain committed to guiding men as they navigate their desires, helping them break free from societal constraints and embrace their true selves. Whether it’s in a high-rise apartment in Shanghai or a cozy space in Hangzhou, the appeal of pegging transcends boundaries, opening doors to new levels of pleasure and intimacy.

Shanghai BDSM Event: Outdoor Session with My English Sissy

Enjoyed my outdoor lunch session with my English sissy slave in shanghai today! I helped him dress up as a sexy female. Afterward, I applied delicate makeup on his face and locked him in pink high heels & chastity before we left for the Mexican restaurant. He gave me a comfortable foot rub during our lunchtime in shanghai xintiandi.