I once worked with a Swiss client during a carefully structured training session in Shanghai. Everything went according to plan. He followed instructions, stayed focused, and the session ended without any issues.
Afterward we spent a few minutes talking casually. The atmosphere was relaxed. He seemed satisfied, and I assumed we were wrapping things up on a professional, pleasant note.
Then, completely out of nowhere, he asked:
“Can we have sex?”
I paused. Was he seriously mistaking a paid professional session for a date?
I couldn't help wondering what had led him there. Had the intensity of the session somehow convinced him the boundaries no longer applied?
A few things need to be clear.
First, he simply wasn't my type. Second, even if he had been, the answer would still have been no. I do not have sex with clients.
I am a professional Dominatrix. My work centers on power exchange, discipline, negotiated scenes, and firm boundaries. Paying for a session does not purchase romantic or sexual access outside those agreed activities. Being someone's Mistress does not make me their girlfriend or casual partner.
The training had gone smoothly, but one lesson still needed reinforcing:
Being my submissive does not entitle you to my intimacy.Some boundaries, it turns out, require a little extra clarity.