BDSM Rules: Why I Had To Turn Down These BDSM Session Requests

 As a professional dominatrix in Shanghai, I take great care in selecting the sessions I engage in, ensuring they align with my personal values and boundaries. Over the years, I’ve received a variety of requests that I’ve had to turn down, each for specific reasons rooted in my own preferences and the integrity of my craft.

One client approached me with a request for a smoke session, where he wanted me to blow smoke directly into his face. I declined immediately, not just because I don’t smoke, but also because I have a strong aversion to secondhand smoke. The health risks and discomfort that come with it make that kind of session unappealing to me, regardless of the fetish involved.

Another client reached out asking for a “switch” session, where I would alternate between being dominant and submissive. This was also a quick no from me, as I am firmly and permanently in the role of the dominant. The dynamic of being a switch doesn’t resonate with me, and I believe that being true to my dominant identity enhances both my connection with submissives and the authenticity of the experience.

Lastly, I was approached by a client who requested a couple's session, where he wanted me to dominate his girlfriend. While I understand the desire for a shared BDSM experience, I simply do not engage in sessions involving the domination of women. I am exclusively focused on male submissives, and I choose to stay within that area to maintain the level of intensity and connection I strive for in my work.

Each of these decisions reflects my commitment to providing a genuine and fulfilling experience while maintaining personal boundaries and respecting the uniqueness of the BDSM dynamic I foster with my submissives.

Shanghai BDSM FAQ

1 What is the general procedure of booking a session with you?

Email me at mistress@doctor.com the bdsm practice you wanna do, your hosting location and session length, availability and I will reply you with an accurate price. You pay deposit at least 2~3days in advance to confirm your booking.

2 What is the minimum session length?

 2 hours. If it is shorter than that, it will be too rush for BDSM practice, drawing from my extensive BDSM domination experience. You can order 3, 4, 5, 6 or longer hour sessions if you think 2-hour session is too short. The longest session I have done is 8-hour.

3 Do you do BDSM outcalls & incalls in Shanghai?

 I only do outcalls to shanghai and cities nearby such as suzhou, wuxi, nanjing and hangzhou.

4 Is deposit required when booking a session?

Maintaining a meticulously structured schedule is paramount for me. Deposit is 50% of the total fee to secure your chosen time slot with me. You can pay that 2~3days in advance. Email me at mistress@doctor.com to work out payment method. I accept CNY/EUR/USD/AUD/SGD/GBP many major currencies.

5 What is cancellation policy?

If you cancel or change time within 168hours, deposit will be forfeited, which means this can not be used as deposit for next time. This is because I have already incurred non-refundable expenses for limos, refusing others to book your chosen time slot.

6 What are your rates?

Session rate depends on the content, length and your hosting location.

Email me to get an accurate price.

7 Is sex offered?

  No, I do not offer sex.

8 What differentiates me from other dominatrices?

My unique ability to craft highly creative and personalized BDSM scenarios. I excel at tailoring each experience to the mutual kinks and fetishes of both myself and my submissives, ensuring that no two sessions are alike. I take the time to understand the desires and boundaries of my slaves, blending their fantasies with my own, resulting in a dynamic and immersive encounter. This bespoke approach allows me to create a space where both of us can explore power dynamics in a deeply fulfilling and transformative way, elevating the experience beyond standard domination.  

Examples of my past bdsm scenarios

9 Is verification required for clients?

No, it is not required. However, I did not meet all clients/slaves who contacted me.

I only met about 65% of males who contacted me for a session.

I am very picky about who I bring into my BDSM world.

10 Do you ever travel?

I am based in shanghai, suzhou and wuxi area. If you would like to require I travel to you, I'm open to it on a case by case basis so you're welcome to email a proposal. But even better would be to schedule some distance domination to get to know each other first. Slaves have flied me to Beijing, Sanya, Amsterdam in the past.

11 Do you accept session content that is not commonly practiced in BDSM?

Yes, I possibly do. You can email me your suggestion.

Here are some of the session requests I have declined in the past.

12  Will there be music in your session?

Music accompanies 99% of my sessions, chosen specifically to shape the scenario and deepen the experience. Whether it's an intense pegging scene or a provocative golden shower scenario, the corresponding soundtrack enhances every moment. Only noise-cancellation sessions are conducted without music to maintain complete silence.